I want to live in the present moment, but somehow little worries and anxieties drag me down. They exhaust me, make me lie in my bed, stop me from going out and living my life to its fullest.
Worries and uncertainties could drain you. They imbibe the life out of you. You forget to live in the present. You either worry about the future or think about the past. Our life, especially modern life, is full of worries. From the moment we wake up to the time we sleep, we crib and worry. We are worried about what others would think of us. We are tense about the future. What if I lose my job? What if I fail the exam? What if I get roasted in the interview? These ifs have taken our life and energy away from us.
Here is how to get rid of the toxic and chronic worries of your life and live it to the fullest.
Plan for the Worst
This may sound weird, but if you have a plan to tackle the worst, you will be at peace. Just think of the worst case scenario and plan accordingly. If you are afraid of losing our job, start a backup savings plan, find a part time gig or outsource a small business. Having a plan would actually help you. You will not freak out or worry.
In a nutshell, instead of thinking, start putting your effort to change the situation. Yeah, I know this is a cliché but you have got to put some effort.
Know Things Which You Can’t Affect
Divide all the events in your life into two categories. There are some events which you can control: job, diet, living style, friends, sleep timing, clothes. And then there are some event which you can’t: other people, neighbors’ habits, weather, natural disasters, aging, death. Here is a simple formula to be at peace: stop giving a single fu*k about the latter category. Put all your effort in the former one.
Note Down Your Worries and Analyze Them
I have tried this and it actually works. Whenever you get a panic attack or feel worried, take out your notebook or page (you must have one with you in your pocket) and note down the details of the thing which infused into you the worries. When you write the worries down, they come in front of you and then you feel that how childish they are. Analyze your problems and anxieties. Write them down and then look at the text. Your brain will come to peace.
Death: The Prime Mover
If I were to tell you one single best thing about Steve Jobs, I would point out his style of taking motivation. That guy always took motivation from death. He always started his motivational talks and speeches by telling people that how one day we all would die and it wouldn’t matter what others thought about you. Small things and worries shouldn’t drain your energies. Death is the single prime mover in life. Death is final and inevitable, so do we have anything to lose? Simply not! We have some time left, and we have got to make the best of it. Your small worries like what your uncle would think about your dress or what others would comment about your freelance job would mean nothing at the end. What matters is your happiness, satisfaction, value you add in your life and productivity.